I knew a guy that used to joke about the Christmas
letters people write. He found it
funny that these letters were either chalk-full of the amazing things people
did all year or it was a laundry list of their woes. At the time, I laughed along and said to
myself, “that’s so true.”
That was all way before Facebook where this sort of
external showcasing of your life is now so commonplace. But even after a decade of change spurred on
by social media’s entrenchment in our lives, I remember the meaning behind his
joke: our lives are more complex than our accomplishments and they can be more
joyful than our woes might tell. You don't just have a great year or a bad year - it's almost always a mixture of both.
Even knowing that it’s impossible to capture the essence of an entire year in a
single letter or blog post I find that here on the brink of Christmas, at the end of the
year, I wanted to write something about 2016. If I followed the Christmas letter theme, I’d
start with January and work my way through the seasons. But I think life is most often remembered in reverse, like a movie watched while the tape is rewound.
December: It’s
been colder than normal. We’ve had lots
and lots of rain this year which is good. We need it after years of drought. I spent
a lot of time on the couch, under heated blankets, falling asleep too early in
the evening. We didn’t drive around the
neighborhood and look at Christmas lights as much as last year. The season seemed to sneak up on me and I
felt like I missed things that should have been important. We did spend one magical weekend at
Disneyland where I felt blessed to be able to afford a trip like that, blessed
to have a daughter just the right age to love the trip. Blessed to have a wife that knew I needed a
little magic and happiness in my life.
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| Splash Mountain at Disneyland |
November: Felt like a hard month for me in ways I wasn't quite prepared for or expecting. It’s supposed to be a time of Thanksgiving but I felt cheated. Looking back I can see that I let myself withdraw from life more than I should have. I kind of closed up and went into hibernation.
October: I can’t even tell you about this month. Looking at my calendar I can see it was a busy month at work and I know we did the whole Halloween thing. But the month, in general, is just a blur.
September: Just a few months after celebrating his
graduation from the Royal Canadian Mounties program, my nephew sent us a picture of
himself and his girlfriend on the top of a mountain and she was wearing a huge
diamond ring on her finger. The whole
family was thrilled and we can't wait to get back together and celebrate something so joyful as a wedding.
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| The happily engaged couple |
August: Hot and miserable in Northern California as per normal. August is also the time when our kids head back to
school. My daughter started 3rd
grade this August. As with most milestones in her life, I found myself dwelling on the swift passage of time with a mix of nostalgia and excitement for the future. We picked her up from school and went out for ice cream that afternoon. I remember wanting to share pictures from that day with my mom who felt so far away to me.
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| A beautiful night in Boston's Fenway Park |
July: At the end of July we took a long-planned-for trip to Boston to see
the Red Sox play a couple games and do the touristy things. It was a welcome distraction for me and I
loved getting to show the ladies in my life the city on the other coast that I
love so much.
Earlier in July, we flew
back to my home state of Washington and met the rest of my family for the
funeral.
June: On a night at the end of June I left work and saw that I
had two missed phone calls on my cell. One was from
my brother-in-law and one was from my step-dad.
I instinctively knew why they were calling so I didn’t want to call them back. Not yet. The longer I waited, the longer I could ignore what they had to tell me.
A little while later we sat close together on the couch and told Bailey that her Grandma had died.
May: We took a quick trip to Portland, Oregon. I managed to blog about it and post some
pictures well after the fact. My daughter got her ears
pierced on this trip. We were trying to
carry on with life and do normal things.
April: I finished building a raised-bed vegetable garden
I had wanted to build for months. April
in Sacramento is beautiful. I proudly
sent my mom photos of my garden’s progress.
She loved to garden and loved that I loved to garden. Every time she came to visit, she’d spend
time reading a book in a chair in my garden. I felt a surge of pride whenever I thought she was enjoying herself in the gardens I worked so hard to create.
March: Mom called and told me she had been diagnosed with
breast cancer but not to worry because they caught it early and her prognosis
was good. I cried that night. I’m not used to good outcomes when it comes
to cancer. I sat down that night and
wrote her a long text message and told her that I was sad but also thankful for her and for the things she taught me, did for me, sacrificed for me, and cultivated in me. She wrote
back and I saved a screen shot of what she sent because I knew I would want to remember her words.
February: We went to Hawaii for the first time ever and
had a wonderful trip. Life was beautiful
and good and we felt so lucky to be alive and to see such a different and
beautiful part of the world. We went to
a luau one night and watched the sun set into the Pacific ocean while someone
nearby blew into a Pu shell to signify the end of the day. It was glorious.
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| One of my life's best moments |
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| Maui sunset |
January: It was a new year and we had lots to look
forward to. It feels like such a long
time ago now. When January of 2017 comes, I hope that there are things to look forward to again.
